I consider myself a relatively handsome guy with a real smooth sense of style. I pride myself on making more then a few women turn their heads whenever I roll by in my wheelchair. I heard that my smile can melt any girl’s heart and is an excellent icebreaker. Sufficed to say I definitely got swag as the young folks call it and have the confidence of a young Casanova with CP. Especially with my speech disability I have to have confidence in myself to be more attractive to women.

Of course looking dapper is a good tool when you are trying to attract the opposite sex. I have received a lot of advice that I need to be wearing the right designer wear clothes and apparel if I am going to attract the right kind of person. However, I still have this philosophy that it is more important to show that you a genuine person than being dapper at a hot nightclub. I have heard the saying many times that you will never find your spouse at a nightclub and I pretty much agree with that statement. At most of the clubs I have gone to there is the unmentioned assumed contest of who looks the coolest in their outfit and I am most often at a noticeable disadvantage. 

What I found out in my mature age, I am a few months away from thirty, is that being dapper is not the end-all for being attractive. I had more success with women showing my intelligence and artistic ability than I ever had with only being dapper. These women liked me not for my outer appearance but because of who I was as a person. I think that is a value we should remember as people with physical disabilities – that while we may have challenges attracting people purely based on our looks, the people that we do attract will hopefully like us because the caliber of our character as people.